Close friends and family know that this is close to the top of my list of ‘bloody irritating questions’, along with a) ‘Is he/she a good baby?’, b)’How is he/she sleeping?’ and c)’When are you going back to work?’ (Answers: a) What the chuff is a ‘bad’ baby?! b) Like a baby and c) If/when I want … More ‘But when is your actual due date?’: The EDD and intervention obsession.
A few months ago, my best friend (and Mayday Mama) messaged to ask me what dates I had free for a Baby Shower. I was touched – isn’t this kind of thing usually reserved for first babies? However, I also dislike baby showers. This is no slight on those who have one; I had one … More Beautiful Blessingway.
Every woman’s definition of a positive birth experience varies. Some of what I mention here is part of my vision but may, of course, differ from yours. Other elements will benefit anybody preparing to meet their baby. Hopefully, if you’re pregnant and reading this, there is something here for you. I was lucky enough to come out of … More Preparing for a Positive Birth Experience
Somehow I’m 27 weeks pregnant. It seems like about a fortnight since we announced that we’re expecting a baby boy in August and now, with just three months to go and a week before entering the THIRD trimester, I’m finally getting around to an update about the second. This time during my last pregnancy, I … More Second Trimester (in the nick of time)
Today’s guest post comes courtesy of a Mother Sider who has asked to remain anonymous as, apart from her husband, nobody knows of her experience. Sadly, the stigma associated with abortion means many woman are unable to confide in their friends and family – often for cultural or religious reasons (as is the case here), … More How it Feels: Abortion
Mother Sider Kelly is due her second baby any day now. The excitement of her impending new arrival has been overshadowed by the fact she hasn’t enjoyed her pregnancy at all. The fact that she and her baby are both healthy has made her feel terribly guilty. Pregnancy is a physical and emotional rollercoaster. Your baby … More How it Feels: To hate being pregnant.
I remember reading this article when Primrose was about 9 months old. I felt like I’d come out the other side of the anxiety I’d been struggling with and was finally relaxing (most of the time) into motherhood. I wanted to hug the author and congratulate her on her ‘the strength is in asking for … More The Invaluable Asset of a ‘Mayday Mama’.
‘You cannot pour from an empty cup’ sounds like one of those trite aphorisms that used to make us baulk. Now though, it seems apt. A baby’s needs are simple: to be warm, clean, safe, fed and secure. A mother (and father) need to feel emotionally and physically capable of providing for these needs. Whilst exhaustion … More ‘You cannot pour from an empty cup’
33.5years Before Child. Or, at least, the few years before I became pregnant… Work, moaning about work (see previous post about perfectionism), numerous daily cups of tea, driving whilst listening to Radio 2, wine, Prosecco or gin (all three if it was a weekend), dining out at least once a week, the cinema, reading a decent … More Motherhood/Martyrdom: A dangerous synonymy.
In my head, this post title was followed by no words at all. In reality, it actually just looked like the post hadn’t uploaded, so here we are. So, why the blank space/no words? Because, quite simply, the pursuit of perfectionism, as a mother, is an unachievable goal. In chasing it, you are setting yourself … More Being The Perfect Mother.