This post is from a Mother Sider who would like to remain anonymous. We’re sure that when you read it, you’ll understand why. It is a shocking indictment of the sorry state of funding for postnatal health in the UK and another example of why ‘a healthy baby is all that matters’ isn’t a helpful … More How it Feels: Incontinence after Childbirth
We know we haven’t formally introduced our contributors yet (soon, we promise!), but we’ve been chatting about the hardest, or most unexpected, parts of becoming a parent. Here are some of their responses: Margo: ‘Probably how I’ve lost myself, and I am still working on gaining my sense of self. Parenting has been, in a word, … More The Hardest Part of Becoming a Parent…
For #MaternalMentalHealth Week 2018. Spend more than ten minutes with any new mama and the subject of GUILT is bound to arise. It is something I was wholly unprepared for and, alongside the anxiety I felt postnatally, it hit me like a freight train. At times, it was completely overwhelming – I felt destined for … More The G Word
A friend has just had her second baby. A message she sent me the other night brought back memories of those early postpartum days and weeks here – now 6 months ago. Of course, it feels like a lifetime ago but, at the time, when you’re living it, sore, bleeding, exhausted and engorged, with hormones … More What’s Invaluable in the Fourth Trimester when you have a Toddler too?
Many of our posts over the last year and a bit have mentioned the African proverb ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ and I’ve previously talked about the importance of having a tribe and a ‘mayday mama‘. Now I don’t live in a traditional tribal village. Neither do I have my extended family close … More It’s a village, girls, but not as we know it…
When we were preparing Primrose for Wilf’s arrival, we tried to cover all bases. You can read about it here, if you like. This paid off. From the moment he arrived, she was besotted. She ‘reads’ to him, shows him toys, lays with him, sings to him, makes him chuckle, and her first question in … More Toddler See, Toddler Do
We are BIG fans of Sketchy Muma here at TFTMS. She always seems to release an image at *just* the right moment to resonate with our current mood or feelings. Anna has been so kind in letting us use her sketches to accompany some of our posts and her work has provided Jo with the … More Q&A with Anna Lewis AKA ‘Sketchy Muma’
This is a bittersweet post for me. As ever with raising children, some days feel incredibly tough, none more so than those that make up the ‘Fourth Trimester’ (the first three months of your baby’s life). However, I look back on the past three (and a bit) months and wonder where they went. Already, Wilf … More Farewell, Fourth Trimester
“Why do people say ‘grow some balls’? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.” This quote, courtesy of Betty White (a brilliant actress notorious now for playing sweet old ladies), is a poignant one for the world today’s girls are growing up in. … More Can books inspire and empower today’s girls?
You may be forgiven for thinking that libraries are a dying breed, full of nothing but books and stuffy librarians. But you would be wrong. Created over 200 years ago with a vision to open access to literature across the classes, and now subject to ruthless local government funding cuts which threaten their future, libraries … More Shove your shhhh! Libraries are getting more child-friendly…and it’s great