A friend has just had her second baby. A message she sent me the other night brought back memories of those early postpartum days and weeks here – now 6 months ago. Of course, it feels like a lifetime ago but, at the time, when you’re living it, sore, bleeding, exhausted and engorged, with hormones … More What’s Invaluable in the Fourth Trimester when you have a Toddler too?
This is a bittersweet post for me. As ever with raising children, some days feel incredibly tough, none more so than those that make up the ‘Fourth Trimester’ (the first three months of your baby’s life). However, I look back on the past three (and a bit) months and wonder where they went. Already, Wilf … More Farewell, Fourth Trimester
I can’t remember if I’d even heard of The Fourth Trimester before Prim was born. I do remember learning more about it in her early days, though, and feeling a sense of relief; suddenly things made sense. It was probably this article by Sarah Ockwell-Smith that acted as a revelation! Of COURSE she didn’t want to be put … More The Fourth Trimester: Four Weeks In.
Alongside our homebirth preparations, trying to prepare Primrose for the baby’s arrival and gearing up for the actual birth of this baby, the postpartum stage of pregnancy has been at the forefront of my mind. Those of you who’ve been with us since the early days of Tales from the Mother Side may remember my … More Preparing for a Positive Postpartum.
Over 80% of mums who stop breastfeeding in the first six weeks weren’t ready to do so. What an astounding statistic, and gutting to read because so often these mothers feel like failures and yet it is the breastfeeding support system (or lack of it) that has failed them. But there is support out there. … More Everything you need to know about breastfeeding…and more
When we initially discussed writing this blog, it was primarily to help other mums-to-be and new mums with breastfeeding. It can be so ruddy hard, especially in those early days and, if the support isn’t readily available, it is understandable that so many ladies switch to formula within days of their baby being born. So, why … More Breastfeeding: Nipple Shields, Slow Weight Gain and Nursing Whilst Pregnant
One of the reasons frequently cited by women for considering giving up breastfeeding is, “It means my partner can share the feeds.” Sometimes, this is a mutual decision but, often, the pressure comes from the baby’s father… It’s understandable, given the portrayal of babies in films and on television. Rarely are women seen breastfeeding unless … More To the partner of a new, breastfeeding mama.
When asked if we were prepared for our impending new arrivals, we were similar in our responses: – Yes, all prepared for the labour, thanks to our hypnobirth sessions. – Yes, we have a car seat and a pram and the nursery is almost ready. – Yes, we have lots of lovely clothes all freshly … More Ready, Steady… Boob!
‘You cannot pour from an empty cup’ sounds like one of those trite aphorisms that used to make us baulk. Now though, it seems apt. A baby’s needs are simple: to be warm, clean, safe, fed and secure. A mother (and father) need to feel emotionally and physically capable of providing for these needs. Whilst exhaustion … More ‘You cannot pour from an empty cup’
33.5years Before Child. Or, at least, the few years before I became pregnant… Work, moaning about work (see previous post about perfectionism), numerous daily cups of tea, driving whilst listening to Radio 2, wine, Prosecco or gin (all three if it was a weekend), dining out at least once a week, the cinema, reading a decent … More Motherhood/Martyrdom: A dangerous synonymy.