One of the reasons frequently cited by women for considering giving up breastfeeding is, “It means my partner can share the feeds.” Sometimes, this is a mutual decision but, often, the pressure comes from the baby’s father… It’s understandable, given the portrayal of babies in films and on television. Rarely are women seen breastfeeding unless … More To the partner of a new, breastfeeding mama.
When asked if we were prepared for our impending new arrivals, we were similar in our responses: – Yes, all prepared for the labour, thanks to our hypnobirth sessions. – Yes, we have a car seat and a pram and the nursery is almost ready. – Yes, we have lots of lovely clothes all freshly … More Ready, Steady… Boob!
‘You cannot pour from an empty cup’ sounds like one of those trite aphorisms that used to make us baulk. Now though, it seems apt. A baby’s needs are simple: to be warm, clean, safe, fed and secure. A mother (and father) need to feel emotionally and physically capable of providing for these needs. Whilst exhaustion … More ‘You cannot pour from an empty cup’
33.5years Before Child. Or, at least, the few years before I became pregnant… Work, moaning about work (see previous post about perfectionism), numerous daily cups of tea, driving whilst listening to Radio 2, wine, Prosecco or gin (all three if it was a weekend), dining out at least once a week, the cinema, reading a decent … More Motherhood/Martyrdom: A dangerous synonymy.
In my head, this post title was followed by no words at all. In reality, it actually just looked like the post hadn’t uploaded, so here we are. So, why the blank space/no words? Because, quite simply, the pursuit of perfectionism, as a mother, is an unachievable goal. In chasing it, you are setting yourself … More Being The Perfect Mother.
A form of torture. That’s how a community nurse described sleep deprivation in our second postnatal class. Causing emotional problems, hallucinations, lack of coordination and delirium and used in the extraction of information from suspected criminals. Holy wow! No wonder many of us are left feeling under par when sleep is impaired by our little … More Surviving sleep deprivation.
No, seriously, WHAT NOW? Think about it… You want to drive a car? You take umpteen lessons and a test to prove your competence. Fancy flying a plane? Wave goodbye to 1500 flying hours and £100K. Desperate to be a doctor? 10 years of training, thank you very much. Resilience, dedication and thorough preparation, all … More So I gave birth, what now?