For #MaternalMentalHealth Week 2018. Spend more than ten minutes with any new mama and the subject of GUILT is bound to arise. It is something I was wholly unprepared for and, alongside the anxiety I felt postnatally, it hit me like a freight train. At times, it was completely overwhelming – I felt destined for … More The G Word
This is a bittersweet post for me. As ever with raising children, some days feel incredibly tough, none more so than those that make up the ‘Fourth Trimester’ (the first three months of your baby’s life). However, I look back on the past three (and a bit) months and wonder where they went. Already, Wilf … More Farewell, Fourth Trimester
Mother Sider Della has three brilliant boys. Her middle son has Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which is often met with a supreme lack of understanding and, as with so many of the things our guest writers write about, ignorance and rudeness. Here, Della gives us a glimpse into O’s world and the challenges he faces, alongside breaking … More How it feels: Having a child with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
Mother Sider Kelly is due her second baby any day now. The excitement of her impending new arrival has been overshadowed by the fact she hasn’t enjoyed her pregnancy at all. The fact that she and her baby are both healthy has made her feel terribly guilty. Pregnancy is a physical and emotional rollercoaster. Your baby … More How it Feels: To hate being pregnant.
33.5years Before Child. Or, at least, the few years before I became pregnant… Work, moaning about work (see previous post about perfectionism), numerous daily cups of tea, driving whilst listening to Radio 2, wine, Prosecco or gin (all three if it was a weekend), dining out at least once a week, the cinema, reading a decent … More Motherhood/Martyrdom: A dangerous synonymy.
In my head, this post title was followed by no words at all. In reality, it actually just looked like the post hadn’t uploaded, so here we are. So, why the blank space/no words? Because, quite simply, the pursuit of perfectionism, as a mother, is an unachievable goal. In chasing it, you are setting yourself … More Being The Perfect Mother.