A friend has just had her second baby. A message she sent me the other night brought back memories of those early postpartum days and weeks here – now 6 months ago. Of course, it feels like a lifetime ago but, at the time, when you’re living it, sore, bleeding, exhausted and engorged, with hormones … More What’s Invaluable in the Fourth Trimester when you have a Toddler too?
This is a bittersweet post for me. As ever with raising children, some days feel incredibly tough, none more so than those that make up the ‘Fourth Trimester’ (the first three months of your baby’s life). However, I look back on the past three (and a bit) months and wonder where they went. Already, Wilf … More Farewell, Fourth Trimester
Alongside our homebirth preparations, trying to prepare Primrose for the baby’s arrival and gearing up for the actual birth of this baby, the postpartum stage of pregnancy has been at the forefront of my mind. Those of you who’ve been with us since the early days of Tales from the Mother Side may remember my … More Preparing for a Positive Postpartum.
One of the reasons frequently cited by women for considering giving up breastfeeding is, “It means my partner can share the feeds.” Sometimes, this is a mutual decision but, often, the pressure comes from the baby’s father… It’s understandable, given the portrayal of babies in films and on television. Rarely are women seen breastfeeding unless … More To the partner of a new, breastfeeding mama.
Mother Sider Kelly is due her second baby any day now. The excitement of her impending new arrival has been overshadowed by the fact she hasn’t enjoyed her pregnancy at all. The fact that she and her baby are both healthy has made her feel terribly guilty. Pregnancy is a physical and emotional rollercoaster. Your baby … More How it Feels: To hate being pregnant.
Everyone tells you having children is a life-changer. But no one can prepare you for the biggest change – what happens to your identity when you become a mother. If you’d have asked me in the lead up to my due date if I was ready for our baby’s arrival, I’d have answered you in … More Who am I? A mum’s identity crisis
Well, I say ‘forgotten’. What I actually mean is ‘put to the back of my mind’. Mums are very good at this, otherwise very few would go on to have more babies! The Normal Stuff By ‘normal’, I mean the things that you expect; the things you hear about from others, from television, in films: … More Things I’d forgotten about the First Trimester
No, seriously, WHAT NOW? Think about it… You want to drive a car? You take umpteen lessons and a test to prove your competence. Fancy flying a plane? Wave goodbye to 1500 flying hours and £100K. Desperate to be a doctor? 10 years of training, thank you very much. Resilience, dedication and thorough preparation, all … More So I gave birth, what now?
I bet most new mums and dads remember their first trip out after a new baby. The excitement and trepidation of that maiden voyage into the wilderness with your new bundle of joy. I remember ours well. It was a stroll into town for a visit to the midwife for our first check-up, followed by … More Don’t be a Mother Tutter